We’ve all heard that writers are introverts. Maybe it’s because we spend so much time working alone, or because we’re always in our heads thinking, developing, and writing stories. 

Some writers know how to get out of their own minds and socialize when at conferences. Others do not. 

I fall into the DO NOT category. But let me explain. Not only am I constantly writing stories in my mind, I’m shy, I have Tourette syndrome which makes people stare at me, and I hate people staring at me.

This year I forced myself to get out there. I attended the SCBWI conference in New York. And what a way to jump in! I heard there were 750 people there. 

I won’t lie and say I came out of my shell and was the life of the party. I admit I hid in my room at times and rushed to each workshop to grab the seat in the back right corner where I’ve always felt I could blend into the wall. But pushing myself past my comfort level by attending such a big conference was life changing. 

And here are a few reasons you fellow introverts should do it too:

1. To meet online friends in person – I spent actual face-to-face time with my online writing partners. We talked for almost six hours about books, plots, diversity, kids, and life! We celebrated a book release, a birthday, and new opportunities.

2. To make new friends – I had a wonderful dinner with my agent and met my agency sisters and brothers. Friends introduced me to their friends. Suddenly my tiny writing world had grown. 

3. To get inspired – I had the opportunity to hear amazing, uplifting, encouraging speakers. Justice Sonia Sotomayor, Elizabeth Acevedo, Jarrett Krosoczka, and Christoper Paul Curtis. I cheered on Golden Kite Award winners, celebrated Jane Yolen’s 80^thbirthday, and laughed, and cried, a lot!

4. To learn the craft – Of course there were the intensives. I signed up for three and had huge takeaways from each. And in one, a MAJOR Ah-ha moment that helped me learn more about my WIP’s main character’s deepest desires than I had in the past six months.

5. To tour the city – Last, but definitely not least, I was in New York City! It has so much to offer: landmarks, history, food, shows, the list is endless. I didn’t get a chance to really sightsee (of course that wasn’t my purpose) but we ate at great restaurants, walked to Central Park, saw a show, and had a writing session at the New York Public Library. I can’t even begin to explain how beautiful that building was!

The positives definitely outweighed the one negative, FEAR. Would I do it again? Absolutely! And you should too, with these tips in mind.

1. Go with a friend. Of course this isn’t always possible for the main reason called life, but planning early helps.

2. If you do go alone, look for the other person standing or sitting by themselves. Chances are they are thinking and feeling the same things you are: HELP! I NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO! And to help with that, let me give you a few conversation starters:

• Are you a writer or illustrator?
• What do you write/illustrate?
• Have you read – name your favorite book.

3. Look for the person in the back right corner. Go over and say hi. If it’s me, I’ll be happy to meet a new friend. If it’s not me, chances are that person is looking for a friend too.